Love is not

Love is not manipulation. Love is not someone wanting & needing you to put their needs and wants above your own. Love is not asking someone to sacrifice their happiness for theirs. Love is not someone who disrespects your boundaries and needs. Love is not someone who projects their problems and insecurities onto you. Love is not sacrificing your happiness for theirs. Love is not bursts of rage, being cussed out & screamed at. Love is not conditional. Love is not gaslighting. Love is not lust. Love is not codependency. Love is not trying to change someone into who you’d like them to be. Love is not having to play the “ feminine “ role so the other doesn’t feel insecure about his masculinity. Love is not defending, blaming or manipulating your partner during conversations. Love is not passive aggressive. Love is not arguing without communicating. Love is not giving the silent treatment. Love is not walking away from a conversation/argument for days. Love can not be turned on as a reward. Love can not be turned off as punishment. Love doesn’t threaten to withhold itself if it doesn’t get what it wants. Love is empathetic and compassionate. Love is not “ love bombs”. Love is not idolization. Love is not chaos. Love is not control.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.